The Situation: He was not that into you.
Worst reactions: Call or text him; get mutual friends involved to encourage him.
The short of it: Move on, girl.
Maybe he lost your number. What if he dropped his iPhone into the East River and has been pining for you ever since? Maybe he's shy! Girl, open your eyes. If he wanted to see you again, he would have made moves by now. Find out why you can't do anything, and relish in a few words of encouragement.
Your conversation at the bar may have been thrilling, and perhaps you felt a great connection. Either way, if he doesn't call...neither should you.
I'm all about the modern woman. Why can't a woman call a man? Well when you put it that way, of course she can. The question is: are you more empowered if you call, or if you leave the situation alone?
Men like to chase. Any Rules-abiding hot mama knows that. If he was so totally smitten with you that he thought about you all night, trust me, you would have a text in your inbox. I once made the mistake of texting a man one week after we met. He had made no effort, but I was so sure of our sparks that I decided to suck it up and do it myself. The end result? Well, the same result as if I had never texted him at all -- he didn't respond. The complication? My ego was hurt even worse than before.
It sucks when you feel a connection, but the follow-through never occurs. You rethink your words, actions, and drink orders. You wonder what it was that broke the deal. In fact, it may have been nothing. Have you ever considered the fact that he could have been quite drunk/out while his girlfriend was away/not on the prowl? You'll never know why he didn't call, but it does not matter. Keep those texts to yourself and don't reveal your hand unnecessarily. A true modern woman trusts in the universe and says: "If not this, then something better."
If you text him and he was never interested in the first place, you feel ashamed. The outcome is the same, but the implications are different.
As for the friends, well, don't go there either. If you happen to have mutual acquaintances, do not enlist them like a private espionage force. You always know when you're being worked on by someone's friends.
Slap your heels back on and march out the door. He was not interested or otherwise engaged. So what? On second thought, maybe he was not that great anyway. And girl....you are WAY too cute to be pining for a stranger on a Saturday night!
Worst reactions: Call or text him; get mutual friends involved to encourage him.
The short of it: Move on, girl.
Maybe he lost your number. What if he dropped his iPhone into the East River and has been pining for you ever since? Maybe he's shy! Girl, open your eyes. If he wanted to see you again, he would have made moves by now. Find out why you can't do anything, and relish in a few words of encouragement.
Your conversation at the bar may have been thrilling, and perhaps you felt a great connection. Either way, if he doesn't call...neither should you.
I'm all about the modern woman. Why can't a woman call a man? Well when you put it that way, of course she can. The question is: are you more empowered if you call, or if you leave the situation alone?
Men like to chase. Any Rules-abiding hot mama knows that. If he was so totally smitten with you that he thought about you all night, trust me, you would have a text in your inbox. I once made the mistake of texting a man one week after we met. He had made no effort, but I was so sure of our sparks that I decided to suck it up and do it myself. The end result? Well, the same result as if I had never texted him at all -- he didn't respond. The complication? My ego was hurt even worse than before.
It sucks when you feel a connection, but the follow-through never occurs. You rethink your words, actions, and drink orders. You wonder what it was that broke the deal. In fact, it may have been nothing. Have you ever considered the fact that he could have been quite drunk/out while his girlfriend was away/not on the prowl? You'll never know why he didn't call, but it does not matter. Keep those texts to yourself and don't reveal your hand unnecessarily. A true modern woman trusts in the universe and says: "If not this, then something better."
If you text him and he was never interested in the first place, you feel ashamed. The outcome is the same, but the implications are different.
As for the friends, well, don't go there either. If you happen to have mutual acquaintances, do not enlist them like a private espionage force. You always know when you're being worked on by someone's friends.
Slap your heels back on and march out the door. He was not interested or otherwise engaged. So what? On second thought, maybe he was not that great anyway. And girl....you are WAY too cute to be pining for a stranger on a Saturday night!
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